Dear Mentor....
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When we invest in mentorship - little do we realize that we are actually investing in our own greatest desires to grow - as a soul.
No one tells us this.
No one tells us that in going for our dreams we may be brought to our knees, often times repeatedly.
No one tells us that saying yes to our vision requires a depth of inner work and commitment that is beyond epic.
No one tells us we will be facing our own darkest secrets, deepest wounds and quite possibly even death defying dire circumstances.
No one tells us that we actually have to disintegrate and die to the self that we are when we approach that buy button or the back of the room with our credit card extended.
No one tells us that simply making the decision to say YES to our big vision and making the investment can actually be ENOUGH to initiate a process that looks NOTHING AT ALL like the promise that the mentor is holding out for us to embody.
No one tells us that there will come a day - maybe even FAR into the future - where we will have to “burn the ship” and let go of the tethers to our mentors and swim the great sea of awareness (and commerce) on our own - trusting our OWN intuition, inner compass & internal fortitude to either make it or break it again and again and again.
Nope. What they tell us instead is that manifesting our dreams, bringing our vision into reality, embodying our greatness is a matter of taking one linear step after another and HEY if I can do it in 3 years or less (30 days??!!) then so can you!
THIS I’ll tell you is patently UNTRUE.
Can the journey that your mentor took be distilled into what LOOKS like steps? Certainly. But what I have come to understand is that SUCCESS COMES ORGANICALLY. What I have also come to understand is that our outward successes are miniscule in relation to the inner success that must be sought and achieved in order for the externals to have any real meaning or purpose. What I have come to understand is that every big YES is an invitation to say a whole lot of NO to all you once were and that the ties that bind us to that are both tenacious and tough to untether from. What I have come to understand is that mentorship is not for the faint of heart - either to BE one or to invest with one.
Today I’m inspired to share a letter I wrote a few years ago to one of my longest term mentors. This letter is written in the format learned from Landmark Forum - an organization and process that was highly recommended as ancillary work by this mentor right from the beginning. It took me ten years to say yes to that suggestion - this is the result.
Dear Mentor,
I’ve been pretending that I know it all and that I have my shit together and that I am some global leader who knows how to create change in the world and make money doing so, when in fact I have been serving my life and energy for years into the elevation of the leadership of others and into fulfilling the promises made by others or fixing the messes they have left behind as a result of breaking their promises.
The impact of that inauthentic way of being and acting is that I have exhausted myself in every way. Overextending my time, energy, money, racking up credit card debt instead of creating cash flow and constantly throwing myself out there all over the place overgiving and underearning. I have beaten myself up and withheld my light from the world and from the possibility of creating a life partnership as well due to feeling ashamed and incapable of dissolving the financial stress and massive levels of frustration and restraint that I have created. I have also been filled with rage and jealousy as I look at what appears to be easy to others including you. I have felt defeated, discouraged and disenchanted and have deeply questioned my own knowing, sanity and capacity to create. I have lost my relationship with my child, my family of origin, with people I thought were friends, my home, my physical health and vitality and my enthusiasm for life.
The whole time I’ve been being and acting this way what’s been missing is any sense of security, dependability, winning, success, consistency, affirmation of the value of what I bring to the table, peace, joy and freedom both financially and creatively.
Standing there the possibility I have invented for myself is a simple streamlined and financially generative business model that works with so much ease it’s like butter melting on hot toast to provide me with more than enough money every day all the time to monetize my mission and to satisfy my desires to create, express and impact people all around the world while at the same time having plenty of open white space for delightful spiritual surprises, rest, relaxation, creative exploration and especially for a beautiful, loving, sexually satisfying, devoted and deep relationship with a divine partner. I choose the end result of...thriving which looks like:
1. fully expressing my genius in the World.
2. enjoying healthy, interdependent relationships where I'm fully seen & fully see others.
3. receiving and giving an abundance of delicious physical touch inclusive of kissing.
4. enjoying financial freedom to live a full life.
5. fun, playful spontaneous adventures.
Thank you for reading and for playing this role for me - I release you now…. Go In Peace.
With Love & Gratitude….. Your Mentee
I’m deciding now if I even want to apply the term mentor to myself anymore. I’ve held this title for 13 years - never wanting to be called a coach - and have used it to promote the work that I do which really can’t be fully described relative to the actual depth of where we go when people come to work with me. I’ve been trying on consultant - and of course there is always “medicine woman” or “destiny midwife” that I can revert to should one of those terms serve best in the conversation - but even that is inadequate to fully explain the work in a way that is easily translatable to the immensity of the work that we can accomplish in service to germinating and growing your own highest version of your greatest vision for yourself and your work in the world.
For now I’m “known as” The Wealthy Life Mentor. So if you’d like to dive deep, activate those latent seeds of destiny that lie waiting within you, and be held in a solid container of integrity that calls forth nothing but the best while we bring in a machete to hack away swiftly and cleanly all that no longer serves in every area of your life - here is my invitation to you:
Let’s connect to see if it’s a fit for us to work together to support you to be able to shed all that no longer serves and to activate clarity, confidence and commitment to creating conscious change and a life filled with MEANING that fills you with joy and the experience of plenty of prosperity. I appreciate that you want to be seen, heard and supported. AND that you want to stop perpetuating the traumatic story lines that keep you trapped in repeating traumatic story lines in your life, in your career or in your business. If NOW is the time for you to step into the creation of your own Wealthy Life By Design & if you feel the calling to explore what’s possible when you let go, look in and leverage your own highest gifts then I invite you to apply for a Wealthy Life By Design Clarity Consultation with me. If you qualify my team will be in touch to get you in the schedule.