Transcending The Triangle Of Trauma

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How are you "hooked" to the Triangle of Trauma?

The triangle of Trauma consists of three points:

Victim, Perpetrator, Martyr (Rescuer)

Remove any one of the three and the triangle collapses - play any one of the roles and you are contributing your life force to perpetuating the triangle.

Triangles are VERY STRONG and used in the construction of bridges because of their strength.

My intention for all of us who are called to be messengers of change & inspiration is that we transmute & transcend the triangle of trauma into the triangle of Triumph!

Where the VICTIM becomes the VITAL, VIBRANT VOICE

the Perpetrator becomes the POWERFUL, PEACEFUL PRESENT(ER)

and the Martyr becomes the MASTERFUL, MONETIZED MESSENGER

Ask yourself these questions everywhere you go -

Am I "Hooked" to the triangle of trauma?
What am I doing to ADD MY PERSONAL POWER and LIFE FORCE Energy to the perpetuation of this?
What shift can I make in my perception that will allow me to spiral up and transmute this pattern?

I was "tracking" myself a few years ago. Tracking is Jaguar Medicine and we track ourselves to 'plug up the leaks' and release attachment to the back doors by sealing them up once and for all. I just had my purse stolen earlier that month (My GOLDEN Purse) and I "got to" replace all the pieces of identification that exited stage left with the "thief".

When I went to the post office to get my passport and discovered I needed a piece of identification that I wasn't told on the phone was required. I noticed that I was able to not engage in "victim" and just moved along with my day. Then when I went back to the post office after acquiring my birth certificate and having a copy made of it at my bank - I was told I needed the original and had to return to my bank for the fifth time in two weeks.

There was a part of me that wanted to make a big story of this - in fact I may even be indulging that part just by sharing with you here so I want to be mindful and intentional that this is for instructional purposes only. That part was much "smaller" than she had ever been previously. She did want to "steal the attention/energy" of the other people though - the characters - the bank manager, the tellers, the two different government officials who were all in that day’s play. There was that desire. "Let me tell my story" to get the attention and actually to FEED THE VICTIM!

Of course practically I did need to explain to the Passport lady that my passport was stolen but I don't need to feed the Victim with my life force and I don't need to waste my breath on telling and retelling the story - no matter how "beautifully" I'm framing it (there's the sneaky Martyr - look I was robbed but really I'm ok and it's all good). And really who was the perpetrator? What if I had "viewed" responsibly and locked my wallet in the glove box? What would have been different? Did I perpetrate this whole thing on myself?

I invite you to ask yourself - how much of your life force energy are you using/expending/exhausting by being caught in one or really ALL of the roles? What if you focused INSTEAD on answering the question:

"What action can I take - how can I apply my life force - direct and choose to attend to - becoming more VITAL AND VIBRANT in this experience, more POWERFUL and PEACEFUL, more MASTERFUL and MONETIZED?

How can I PRESENT my MESSAGE with a VOICE that is TRANSCENDENT so that I create a Positive impact for myself and the world?

If you find yourself in a space where you are often telling stories that leave you feeling both exhilarated (because of all the attention you are getting) and exhausted (because you are feeding your life force into playing up one or more of the points on the triangle) then you probably could use some support with transcending this triangle. Sometimes just having awareness that it exists is enough but often the triangle is rooted in trauma - either from your own childhood or ancestral. There is also ALWAYS wisdom that can be harvested and converted into wealth from these stores of story lines and that’s where getting support can be a very intelligent investment.

I’d be delighted to see if it’s a fit for us to work together to support you to be able to shed all that no longer serves and to activate clarity, confidence and commitment to creating conscious change and a life filled with MEANING that fills you with joy and the experience of plenty of prosperity. I appreciate that you want to be seen, heard and supported. AND that you want to stop perpetuating the traumatic story lines that keep you trapped in this triangle. Is NOW the time for you to step into the creation of your own Wealthy Life By Design?? If you feel the calling to explore what’s possible when you let go, look in and leverage your own highest gifts then I invite you to apply for a Wealthy Life By Design Clarity Consultation with me. If you qualify my team will be in touch to get you in the schedule.